YES you CAN!

I don’t know if you have ever heard the quote…
“All that we are today is the result of what we have thought,” (Guatama Budda).
Well, sometime ago I read this quote and it was a light bulb moment for me. Ever since, I have made a conscious effort to control my thoughts and my spoken words, making them more positive, and boy or boy it really makes a difference to your everyday life and the people around you.

All of us have thousands of different thoughts running through our minds every day and it’s understandable that most of the time we pay little attention to what these thoughts actually say or mean. Nevertheless, whether we are consciously aware or not, our thoughts and our spoken words do shape how we feel, how we act and ultimately, what we can achieve.

With all this in mind, there are two very small words that, even though they slip off the tong very easily and seem harmless enough, can be much more poisonous to our well-being than we realise; these two words are ‘I can’t’.

I am sure you are all nodding to yourselves right now, because we all know that we use these words flippantly and for some people it can be many times a day. Obviously, in some context, these words are perfectly fine… For example, when you are in an important meeting and your son texts you and asks to be picked up early from school (this is a regular occurrence once the little blighters are in six form😉) and you say, “I can’t love, I’m a tad busy at the moment!” Well, this is perfectly reasonable. But what about when it’s in the following context?

  • I tried and tried, but I can’t lose the weight!
  • I can’t give up chocolate!
  • I can’t find time to exercise!
  • I can’t get in the right mind set!
  • I can’t go out to dinner, I’m too fat!
  • I can’t get in my favourite jeans!
The problem being, when used in this way, ‘I can’t’ suggests that we are not good enough, that there is no way possible and that we are helpless. And when we feel helpless, everything feels like a struggle; the more we say, ‘I can’t’, the more you will begin to believe it. However when we feel positive, we understand that there is a way, even if we haven’t worked it out yet and more importantly, when we feel positive, we have hope.

So when you next find yourself saying or thinking ‘I can’t,’ I want you to stop and think. Either replace it with I CAN, even if at first it may feel a bit silly or a bit wrong, or get into the habit of rephrasing it in a different way by replace the words with ‘I won’t’ or ‘I choose not to’. This way we start to own our excuses and facing this challenge is the first step of the journey to a new, positive, healthier, happier, and slimmer you.

So… there is no such thing as I CAN’T, you most definitely CAN!